"My son, the sperm donor"

My son is in his first year of medical school, and some lesbian friends of his want him to help them get pregnant. He’s thinking about it, but I’m a wreck. This is my grandchild they’re talking about, and I’d never even get to see the kid!

It’s perfectly understandable for you to want a relationship with your son’s future child. But you may not know what role he plans to take with the little one. Many sperm donors who are friends with the moms-to-be decide to take an active, if not a legally protected, role with the child. If that were the case, you could be a grandmother not only in name, but in actuality (like helping with diaper changes, babysitting, and gift giving). So, start by asking your son some questions about the arrangements that are being discussed, rather than telling him how worried you are. Do your best not to pressure him or judge him, no matter what he or the prospective mothers choose to do.