What's up with speed dating?

"My best friend Marc is a champ at gay speed dating and thinks it would be great for me too. Honestly, the whole thing intimidates me: all those guys, so little time. He wants me to go with him to one that promises 10 to 25 dates in an evening. Isn’t this completely superficial? And more importantly: What should I wear?

Speed dating has become very popular lately. But the first few times are nerve-wracking for most people. Try not to feel intimidated, but do think ahead about some questions to ask because it’s easy to get tongue-tied knowing you’re being judged while the clock ticks away.

Steer away from questions that will result in a “yes” or “no” answer since they won’t get you into the rhythm of a conversation. Ask about things that matter to you: “What kind of work do you do?” for instance, or “Where have you vacationed recently?” Try to avoid especially involved questions, like “What’s your relationship with your family like?” or deeply personal ones, such as “Top or bottom?” Some people even jot down questions on a slip of paper. Remember, you should be asked questions, too. If one of you is doing all the talking, it’s time to move on.

Keep in mind that speed dating isn’t for everyone. But all you really have to lose is about $20 and an evening. And some people really do make great connections at these events.

As for what to wear? Put a little extra effort into your look. If any dating scenario is about first impressions, this is it.