Wasn't that a one-night stand?

Here’s the deal. We met at a bar, had a couple of drinks, went back to his place and had great sex. Period. End of story. Or so I thought. As I was leaving, he asked me for my number so that we could “get together again.” I thought he understood this was a one-night stand. I just said, “I’ll see you when I see you.” Did I do anything wrong?

Not really, no. It just sounds like one or both of you could have been more explicit ahead of time. But it’s a tricky situation. Unless you’re having sex at a club or in a backroom, it’s easy to misunderstand where the other guy is coming from.

Next time, try to set some limits. In the throes of passion, it may not feel quite right to say, “I only want to have sex with you and then got to go.” But what about: “I need to be asleep in an hour because I’ve got an early flight tomorrow” or “My boyfriend will be home in a little while so let’s get busy…” It’s also important what you do after you climax: Avoid getting into a lot of post-coital chitchat. Don’t be rude, just don’t get drawn into a lengthy discussion.

Three things to remember: If it’s a no-strings-attached hookup, don’t expect to exchange last names, email addresses or phone numbers. If you’re at a guy’s house, make sure you remember to take everything that’s yours because you may never see him again. Finally, and most importantly, be prepared and be safe. That means having condoms on hand and using your sixth sense to make sure the guy’s not a psycho. Oh yes, also enjoy yourself."