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"Too chicken to tell my ex about my STD

I need to tell my ex that I contracted a venereal disease and that I may have passed it on to her, but I can’t bear the idea of talking to her. Is it rude to just e-mail her about this?

One way or another, your ex needs to have this information and you have an obligation to get it to her. The medium isn’t important, but making the effort to actually talk with your ex will give her a chance to ask questions, some of which you may be able to answer on the spot.

Nevertheless, if your animus toward your ex is really strong, then go ahead and e-mail her. Ask her to let you know that she received your news—you wouldn’t want information like this to wind up in a junk folder.

If you were talking about a casual sexual hookup and not an ex, you might get away with sending one of the e-cards available through inSpot (www.inSpot.org). The site delivers messages like “I got diagnosed with an STD and you might have been exposed. Get checked out.” You can either sign your e-card or send it anonymously.

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