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"I want to 'friend' this guy I just met but don't want to seem too eager."

I just met someone I really like at a party and I’d like to friend him so I can ask him out. But just like in real life, I don’t want to come across as too eager or hungry. What’s the right amount of time to wait before sending a friend request?

One Mississippi, two Mississippi—even on Internet time, that’s too fast. Assuming you had a pleasant enough conversation and discovered some mutual interests, follow up in the next day or so, but understand that many people don’t think of Facebook as a dating service. Definitely hold back on sending a friend request right away—that suggests you have no self-control or are too eager. On the other hand, if you wait more than two or three days, this guy may have no idea who you are.

Be sure to add a personal message to your friend request and say something like “Nice chatting with you at so-and-so’s the other night. I was wondering if you’d be my friend. :)” This kind of note could pass for either a true friend request or the gateway to a date request, without much risk of rejection.

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