"How do I help a friend fight off the not-so-gay holiday blues?"

I have a good friend who got dumped by her lover just before Halloween and I know she’s feeling very blue this holiday season. While I don’t want to invade her privacy, I’m wondering what’s the best way to help and show that I care?

If anything, the great holiday dash—Thanksgiving to New Year’s—raises the emotional jackpot to record levels, especially for LGBT folks, who often have frayed family ties. Then, there are the various dramas that come from being closeted, having recently broken up, facing money troubles and more. Ok, enough of the downers. (Of course, straights have their own variations on these same themes.)

To answer your question, yes, there’s a lot you can do to help:

• First and foremost, let your friend know you’re around. . . . Go out for a drink, join in a holiday celebration or have dinner together—and make a point of listening. Ask her how you can be of most help.

• Make sure she’s covered for the holidays by inviting her to spend them with you.

• Suggest that you volunteer together at a local LGBT organization. There’s nothing like getting out and helping others this time of year, and so many non-profits need help.