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   What do you say when a friend comes out to you?
04-08-10
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Q: I’m straight but I have some gay friends, and twice now people I’m close to have chosen me to be the one they tell first. I get tongue tied, not sure how to be helpful or what they want me to say. Any suggestions?

A: Well, I’m going to guess that you’re a trustworthy and supportive sort of person if friends are singling you out to be the recipient of this news. Not to mention the fact that you’re so concerned about your response. I still remember the first straight friend I came out to. I fretted, stammered and finally blurted out those two little words, “I’m gay.” My friend, who hardly seemed surprised by this revelation, just gave me a big hug and thanked me for trusting her and told me I could talk as much or as little as I wanted about my sexuality in the days to come.

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http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/life/straight-talk-what-do-you-say-when-a-friend-comes-out-to-you-1266918/

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