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“Will you be my domestic partner?”
Asking someone to become my “domestic partner” doesn’t sound nearly as romantic to me as “Will you marry me?” Any thoughts on how to sex up this kind of proposal?
You’re right, that phrase wouldn’t really make me swoon. But just because the government is denying you the freedom to marry doesn’t mean it controls how you express what’s in your heart. There’s no reason your commitment proposal shouldn’t be special and memorable, whether it’s a candlelit dinner at your favorite restaurant or a weekend away at a bucolic B&B. So put a little time and effort into the planning. Consider presenting a ring, if that suits you, and saying something like, “I wish we could marry, but since we can’t, I hope we can be together forever. Will you have me?”

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