HOME        MEET STEVEN         THE WELL-MANNERED BLOG         QUEERIES         BOOKS        GIVING BACK        MEDIA ROOM        RESOURCES      

QUEERIES

Here’s what I’m wondering: Why do you need to display so many things that say “straight”? Okay that was rude, sorry, but do you see what I mean? Don’t you or your straight colleagues put up art or knick-knacks that in one way or another show people “being” heterosexual? Pictures of girlfriends or boyfriends perhaps? What about a movie poster with, say, Robert Pattison or George Clooney. And then, what about that plaque on your office wall commending you for years of service to the Boy Scouts of America, which prohibits gays from joining? (That’s not only shouting “straight,” it’s also calling out homophobia.)

My point is that many of the objects we’re used to seeing around—and read as neutral—actually do convey lots about us and our identities. You may not be aware of what your cube décor says to others just as he might not be, too.

On the other hand, your gay co-worker may be full of a little piss and vinegar, especially because this is such a politically-charged time for gay and lesbian rights here at home It’s hard to miss the plethora of stories about same-sex marriage and the question of whether “out” gays and lesbians should be aloud to serve in the military.

Instead of stewing about it, why not walk around that cube wall, ask him to coffee and start up a conversation about some of these issues. But, first, take a quick look around your own space as well as those of your straight co-workers because those who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.

 

CONTACT     |     TERMS OF SERVICE     |     PRIVACY POLICY     |     MEDIA ROOM    |     SITE CREDITS


FOLLOW STEVEN PETROW'S GAY & LESBIAN MANNERS ON        FACEBOOK       TWITTER