QUEERIES
When a straight guy asks a lesbian out?
I could use some help in understanding proper etiquette when a heterosexual fellow asks me out thinking that I’m a straight woman. What can I say?
If you missed the wonderful cartoon on this subject in the New Yorker recently, let me repeat the caption, since it’s brilliant. Straight guy asks lesbian out, and she replies: “Thanks, but I’m in the middle of a lesbian phase that started the day I was born.” If you’re prepared to be out, a dollop of humor will take you far. A line of that kind delivered with warmth (as opposed to snottiness) definitely counts as “proper.”
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Can we charge our friends to come to our wedding shower?
Is it cool to come out on Facebook?
What about a gay pride “dress code”?
Why does my sister ask her girlfriend for help with medical decisions, instead of me?
Who pays for dinner on a gay date?
“Will you be my domestic partner?”
Can I break up with my boyfriend by text?
How to address mail to lesbian and gay couples?
Don’t kids who have two dads feel left out of Mother’s Day?
Wasn’t that a one-night stand?
New lesbian on the job?
What to do about uninvited kids at a gay party?
When to tell your date "I'm transgender"?
Is it ever okay for straight people to use slang like queer, dyke or queen?
Are seating arrangements different for same-sex couples?
How do I introduce my gay friends?
My husband’s gay—what should I say?
Is my lesbian friend flirting with me?
How to treat my lesbian daughter-in-law?
What’s up with speed dating?
Why does this guy at my office show off so many things that scream “gay”?
Can kids grow up “normal” in a gay home?
Are older gay men “cougars” or “daddies?”
When a straight guy asks a lesbian out?
Help for Valentine’s Day?
Help for drunken groping?
How to live with a closet case?
How to convince mom we won’t have sex in front of the kids?
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Q: My girlfriend is a snoop
My partner and I have been living together for a couple of months now and I suddenly realized that she’s going through my personal papers and reading my email. I actually don’t have anything to hide, but…
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