My lesbian friend is always coming on to me even though she knows I’m straight. I feel like there’s a lot of tension and I’m not sure what should I tell her.
I’m wondering exactly what you mean by “coming on”? Is she touching you inappropriately? Do her eyes lock on yours? There’s plenty of room for miscues and miscommunication in any relationship, and this can be especially so between straights and gays. Sometimes heterosexuals misread acts of friendship or simple neediness as sexual advances when they’re not intended that way. Is that possible in this case? Or, is this simply an unrequited crush?
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