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Can we charge our friends to come to our wedding shower?
My girlfriend and I are planning what we jokingly call a “lesbian couples shower” in anticipation of our commitment ceremony later this year. Right now, we’re up to about 40 friends and family on our guest list and we can’t really afford to throw such a big event. A couple of our friends suggested we ask our guests to help us cover the costs. Would that be bad lesbian manners?

It would be bad manners, period. The problem is not that you are short on cash but that your guest list is too long. Besides, showers need to be small enough for guests to get to know each other. I suggest that, instead of thinking of your shower as one big meet-and-greet, you try and consider it a cozy, intimate gathering of your nearest and dearest.

As soon you get over the crazy idea of charging people admission, cut your list way down and sketch out a reasonable budget. Or consider asking those friends who made the original suggestion to host your little party themselves.



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