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When to tell your date "I'm transgender"?
I've told men upfront that I'm a male-to-female trans woman (I date straight guys) and I've also waited till longer into the relationship, and I still don't know which is the better approach. I don't want them to be upset (or to lose their attention), but I also want them to know I'm an honest person -- someone you could have a relationship with. What's the best strategy for this if I'm looking for a keeper, i.e. not just sex?

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